I’ve been contemplating how I feel about this since last night. Well I know how I feel, but there is just no pretty way to write this.
I’m going to be an aunt and I’m pissed!
My brother is 22. He bounced back and fourth between my mother and father growing up. Somehow he ended up with her in high school. She allowed him to drop out of high school at 16. He’s 22 and he still doesn’t have a GED. He has however been gainfully employed for a little while now and he seems to be getting things straight.
Then this happened. Recently, I found out that he and his girlfriend are moving from his house in the northwest to live with my mother here in the southeast.
A little background here. The girl my brother is seeing (let’s call her Katie) has three kids. And she’s 26. Katie hasn’t had a job the whole time she’s been living with my brother. She also doesn’t have custody of her two older children, but no one is really sure why. So she is leaving them behind when she moves here.
So my baby brother called me last night and said, “You’re going to be an aunt!” I didn’t know what to say. He was a little disappointed by my lack of reaction. This is her fourth child baby brother! But, I sucked it up and worked out a congrats.
They are leaving to move down here tomorrow morning. This brings more problems into this as well. They will be living with my (also unemployed)mother who lives with her I don’t what to call him(boyfriend?) This means that if I want to have a relationship with my niece or nephew, I’m going to have to eventually deal with my mother who I have not had contact with in years.
And last but not least, the most selfish thing about this. All I ever wanted in life was to be a mother. One of the hardest things about my divorce was being painfully aware of the fact that I may not ever have the family I always dreamed of. Suddenly my biological clock was ticking very loudly. I know that I am still young, but I want to have time to meet someone, fall in love, know that they are fit to be a good father/husband, and then think about kids. And it just pisses me off to see people having kids just because they can and then not taking care of them. I don’t know what she did, but I know how difficult it is for the mother to lose custody of her kids.
I hope that I can get over this all because this child is going to need someone a little more sane in it’s life than the people it will be living with.