Dilemma with D

Published July 26, 2014 by daisiesloveandpeace

I had a bit of a meltdown today. I am having a meltdown. It started before today.

Where do I even start?

D came over last night. It was ok, but I am starting to feel, bitter? towards him. I don’t know that bitter is the right word, but I can’t figure out what else to put there.

I am losing patience. This shouldn’t be put on him, this should be put on me I suppose.

Today makes a month since we started talking, three weeks since the first date. As I am writing those numbers, I see how short of a time it’s been. It really doesn’t feel like that.

I don’t understand this whole, “We-aren’t-exclusive-until-we-have-the-talk” thing. I like him, he likes me, what else is there to discuss?

As I said before, I am not a patient person and in this particular situation as time goes on, what little patience  I do have is starting to diminish. Very quickly.  The longer this goes on with him not ready to commit, the more I am putting up a wall for fear that I am about to get hurt.

I think a very large part of my problem here is that I got so used to living with Ron for the last six years of my life. I am ready to come home to someone again. I am ready to fall into that comfort.  This not knowing bit is so scary to me.

I don’t know how to communicate this to him without scaring the poor man away. Maybe that’s a sign?

Suggestions? I am definitely open to input here.


3 comments on “Dilemma with D

  • This is kind of a tricky situation. I think the best way to approach it is to have a very, very laid back talk with him about what he wants and what he’s looking for. No pressure. Then talk a little bit about what you want and what you’re looking for. Don’t try and change his mind, either you two match up or you don’t. The down side here is that his answers might not be the ones you want.

    • Very true. Thank you. I will have to make this talk happen when I see him again. I struggle with the not trying to change his mind thing. It’s definitely something I will have to be cognizant of as I talk to him.

      • The “not changing his mind” thing is really the key part here. A laid back conversation about what the two of you want shouldn’t bother him, trying to change his mind is what will make him run for the door.

        Good luck. 😉

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